To all the mothers, sisters, wives, single ladies, step-sisters, sister-in-laws, and female identifying beings. You are exactly who make the world go round. You are brave. You are fierce. Your intelligence knows no bounds. You are the silent leaders of this world and you deserve so much more. Know your worth and realize that you make an impact whether it’s recognized or not. Continue reading “An Open Letter To Women”
When I learned I was becoming a mom for the first time, I was fully prepared to lose myself to motherhood. Motherhood was something I always aspired to. That was a major life goal of mine. I was under the assumption that my full identity would be wrapped up in who I was as a parent. I would put all my dreams and goals on hold until my children were old enough to start being self-sufficient and then I’d figure out who I was as a person. As time went on, I was feeling stuck. I loved being a mother and wouldn’t trade it for anything. However, I wasn’t as fulfilled as I thought I would be. I went complete 50’s housewife there for a moment and boy am I glad we live in a day and age where that’s optional and not necessarily expected. I was still working part-time from home but felt I needed to handle all of the things because my husband obviously wasn’t capable. [Insert facepalm] It’s crazy what kinds of stories we make up about our situation, isn’t it? Continue reading “The Power of Personal Development”
I’ve taken a little hiatus over the past 4 months. I’m back now and hitting you hard with the heavy stuff. Thank you all for your patience and the space and grace to allow me to focus on other things for a while.
As many of you know, I had a miscarriage at the end of 2018. It was very difficult for me, as it is for any woman. I had never known how isolating it could be until I experienced it myself. Even with knowing so many others who went through it and having a caring husband who also felt pain around it, it is still a very lonely experience. However, I shared my story and hopefully helped ease some of the heartache that another woman has had involving a miscarriage. I was able to work through it and not let it stop me from trying again. Continue reading “Pregnancy After Miscarriage: All The Feels”
When I look back on my early motherhood, I mostly remember that time fondly. However, I also realize that there are many things that I know now that I wish I would’ve known then. So, I thought maybe I should write a blog post about it in hopes of helping some new mothers out there who may be frantically searching for any and all advice they can get like I was as a new mom. I just didn’t want to mess anything up. I am responsible for a human life now and that is a responsibility that I do NOT take lightly. There were definitely beliefs that I had that I held onto for too long and it took away some of my joy in that first month of my son’s life. Hopefully, I can help prevent that for others. Continue reading “5 Things Every New Mom Should Know”
Social media has become one of the most prevalent parts of our society. We are addicted to it. We have to develop apps to force us to be off of it and actually enjoy our families from time to time. Social media is a great way to stay connected, but it can also be damaging to your feelings of success in your life. Have you ever noticed that people’s lives on social media seem so perfect? Everyone is getting married, having babies, climbing mountains, biking cross-country, running marathons, or starting businesses. Meanwhile, I’m over here just trying to have a clean house, get my work done, and keep my kid happy and healthy. It can certainly feel like everyone is living their best life except you. Continue reading “How To Avoid the Comparison Trap”
Perfectionism has its good qualities. Your work is always done very well. You have a great attention to detail and you always strive to do your best. Also, the people-pleasing aspect is great for those around us as we will always drop everything to help them or otherwise make them happy. If we aren’t careful though, perfectionism can really get in our ways sometimes. Completing tasks can become a longer process for a perfectionist because they get hung up on the minute details. Perfectionists also experience “analysis paralysis” when trying to make decisions during projects and often find themselves unable to do so for fear of it not being perfect. Perfectionism also hinders our enjoyment of the day to day. We over analyze things and have a difficult time letting things go, even if they do not matter in the long run. Perfectionists also often project their ridiculous expectations of themselves unto others making those around them unable to measure up. As you can imagine, this affects relationships and can leave a perfectionist feeling isolated or misunderstood. Continue reading “3 Ways Becoming A Parent Helped Me Deal With Perfectionism”
As a veterinary technician, I work in a field that is heavily dominated by women. While there are a fair amount of fellas around and more are venturing our way every day, it is still mostly women. I think this is really great. Women have the amazing ability to be strong and fierce, while also somehow being loving and caring. In the clinic that I work in, the owner is a male veterinary surgeon. Our other surgeon on staff is a powerful and accomplished female, though she’d be damned if she’d let you recognize her for that. The rest of the staff with the exception of 1 man are all female technicians or assistants. Every single person that works in our clinic is great at what they do. We are a cohesive unit, a well-oiled machine. We get the job done and we do it well every single day. Our patients feel the love and confidence in our abilities. We get compliments regularly from our peers and clients about our exceptional care and service. We are over here just doing the dang thing! Continue reading “Accept The Compliment”
Many of you may not know this about me, but I deal with anxiety on a regular basis. I have been able to control my anxiety at a good level for the most part with healthy habits and so far have not had a need to medicate for it. In the grand scheme of anxiety sufferers, I would say that I’m a mid to low-level anxiety sufferer. Recently, I had a terrible anxiety attack over something totally made up in my head. It’s a little embarrassing to share here, as I feel quite silly after the fact. However, I feel I should so anyone who deals with something similar can feel less alone. Continue reading “Anxiety is a B*tch”
I’m going to be real with you right now, it’s been a long week. I had to survive on 4 hours of sleep two nights in a row and boy did that just mess with me. I had to work late one night to train a new employee. Then, I was up late the next night doing preparations for Thanksgiving. Additionally, our washer suddenly became non-responsive and needs a new switchboard or control panel or something like that. But, it isn’t a part that you can just replace. Oh no. They don’t make them anymore. So you have to send it in and wait 8-10 days for them to fix it. To top it all off, my check engine light has been on in my car and despite two trips to the mechanic, it’s still on. Uff-dah! Continue reading “How to Maintain a Positive Outlook”
As I’ve mentioned in many of my posts, self-care is pivotal to maintaining your cool as a parent. You need to take care of yourself because you are worth it. Yes, your family’s needs are important, but so are yours. You need to fuel yourself before you can help fuel others. The beauty of self-care is that it doesn’t have to be extravagant or big. It can be little things like enjoying a favorite beverage or sitting in the sun. Continue reading “45 Self-Care Ideas”
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