When I learned I was becoming a mom for the first time, I was fully prepared to lose myself to motherhood. Motherhood was something I always aspired to. That was a major life goal of mine. I was under the assumption that my full identity would be wrapped up in who I was as a parent. I would put all my dreams and goals on hold until my children were old enough to start being self-sufficient and then I’d figure out who I was as a person. As time went on, I was feeling stuck. I loved being a mother and wouldn’t trade it for anything. However, I wasn’t as fulfilled as I thought I would be. I went complete 50’s housewife there for a moment and boy am I glad we live in a day and age where that’s optional and not necessarily expected. I was still working part-time from home but felt I needed to handle all of the things because my husband obviously wasn’t capable. [Insert facepalm] It’s crazy what kinds of stories we make up about our situation, isn’t it? Continue reading “The Power of Personal Development”
I’ve taken a little hiatus over the past 4 months. I’m back now and hitting you hard with the heavy stuff. Thank you all for your patience and the space and grace to allow me to focus on other things for a while.
As many of you know, I had a miscarriage at the end of 2018. It was very difficult for me, as it is for any woman. I had never known how isolating it could be until I experienced it myself. Even with knowing so many others who went through it and having a caring husband who also felt pain around it, it is still a very lonely experience. However, I shared my story and hopefully helped ease some of the heartache that another woman has had involving a miscarriage. I was able to work through it and not let it stop me from trying again. Continue reading “Pregnancy After Miscarriage: All The Feels”
When you first become a parent, it can be hard to feel like you’re winning at this whole thing. No matter how much you prepare for this role, there will always be curve balls (or pee streams) thrown your way. There’s no way to be prepared for that first blowout diaper. It can be easy to get overwhelmed and feel like you’re flailing about in parenthood hoping for the best. But, I’d like to take a moment to highlight the positive things you gain after becoming a parent. Most of these skills come about as a necessity, but man they sure are valuable. Here they are: Continue reading “5 Skills You Acquire When You’re A Parent”
When I look back on my early motherhood, I mostly remember that time fondly. However, I also realize that there are many things that I know now that I wish I would’ve known then. So, I thought maybe I should write a blog post about it in hopes of helping some new mothers out there who may be frantically searching for any and all advice they can get like I was as a new mom. I just didn’t want to mess anything up. I am responsible for a human life now and that is a responsibility that I do NOT take lightly. There were definitely beliefs that I had that I held onto for too long and it took away some of my joy in that first month of my son’s life. Hopefully, I can help prevent that for others. Continue reading “5 Things Every New Mom Should Know”
Mom guilt is a b*tch. There, I said it. I don’t know of a single mother that has not experienced mom guilt at some point or another. It can be consuming and overwhelming. I can’t even tell you how guilty I felt that I couldn’t breast feed my son past 4 months. I just couldn’t produce enough milk for him no matter what I did to try to improve that. I had to supplement with formula since he was a newborn because otherwise he would be underfed. I can recall more than one instance when I revealed that I supplemented with formula or had gone to formula-only feeding and got the side-eye from someone nearby. Some people would even start to list the reasons I should’ve kept with it and tried that 6th lactation consultant or that miracle supplement that would produce milk but compromise my health. On top of that, I was feeling like a failure because I couldn’t sustain my child naturally. Everything around me seemed to constantly remind me that “breast is best” and it was a very difficult time, to say the least. Like I said, mom guilt is a b*tch. Continue reading “How To Deal With Mom Guilt”
Perfectionism has its good qualities. Your work is always done very well. You have a great attention to detail and you always strive to do your best. Also, the people-pleasing aspect is great for those around us as we will always drop everything to help them or otherwise make them happy. If we aren’t careful though, perfectionism can really get in our ways sometimes. Completing tasks can become a longer process for a perfectionist because they get hung up on the minute details. Perfectionists also experience “analysis paralysis” when trying to make decisions during projects and often find themselves unable to do so for fear of it not being perfect. Perfectionism also hinders our enjoyment of the day to day. We over analyze things and have a difficult time letting things go, even if they do not matter in the long run. Perfectionists also often project their ridiculous expectations of themselves unto others making those around them unable to measure up. As you can imagine, this affects relationships and can leave a perfectionist feeling isolated or misunderstood. Continue reading “3 Ways Becoming A Parent Helped Me Deal With Perfectionism”
As a veterinary technician, I work in a field that is heavily dominated by women. While there are a fair amount of fellas around and more are venturing our way every day, it is still mostly women. I think this is really great. Women have the amazing ability to be strong and fierce, while also somehow being loving and caring. In the clinic that I work in, the owner is a male veterinary surgeon. Our other surgeon on staff is a powerful and accomplished female, though she’d be damned if she’d let you recognize her for that. The rest of the staff with the exception of 1 man are all female technicians or assistants. Every single person that works in our clinic is great at what they do. We are a cohesive unit, a well-oiled machine. We get the job done and we do it well every single day. Our patients feel the love and confidence in our abilities. We get compliments regularly from our peers and clients about our exceptional care and service. We are over here just doing the dang thing! Continue reading “Accept The Compliment”