To all the mothers, sisters, wives, single ladies, step-sisters, sister-in-laws, and female identifying beings. You are exactly who make the world go round. You are brave. You are fierce. Your intelligence knows no bounds. You are the silent leaders of this world and you deserve so much more. Know your worth and realize that you make an impact whether it’s recognized or not. Continue reading “An Open Letter To Women”
When I learned I was becoming a mom for the first time, I was fully prepared to lose myself to motherhood. Motherhood was something I always aspired to. That was a major life goal of mine. I was under the assumption that my full identity would be wrapped up in who I was as a parent. I would put all my dreams and goals on hold until my children were old enough to start being self-sufficient and then I’d figure out who I was as a person. As time went on, I was feeling stuck. I loved being a mother and wouldn’t trade it for anything. However, I wasn’t as fulfilled as I thought I would be. I went complete 50’s housewife there for a moment and boy am I glad we live in a day and age where that’s optional and not necessarily expected. I was still working part-time from home but felt I needed to handle all of the things because my husband obviously wasn’t capable. [Insert facepalm] It’s crazy what kinds of stories we make up about our situation, isn’t it? Continue reading “The Power of Personal Development”
I’ve taken a little hiatus over the past 4 months. I’m back now and hitting you hard with the heavy stuff. Thank you all for your patience and the space and grace to allow me to focus on other things for a while.
As many of you know, I had a miscarriage at the end of 2018. It was very difficult for me, as it is for any woman. I had never known how isolating it could be until I experienced it myself. Even with knowing so many others who went through it and having a caring husband who also felt pain around it, it is still a very lonely experience. However, I shared my story and hopefully helped ease some of the heartache that another woman has had involving a miscarriage. I was able to work through it and not let it stop me from trying again. Continue reading “Pregnancy After Miscarriage: All The Feels”
It can be easy to get stuck in a rut as a parent. Especially in early parenting when you feel like you’re drowning in toddler tantrums and stickiness EVERYWHERE. Seriously, why are they always so sticky? Anyways, I’ve found myself in a rut recently. I’m not inspired in my job. I have no motivation to pursue my goals and I feel like I’m just treading water. My child is so wonderful and I love him to pieces, but he’s also in a very needy stage and testing boundaries. The constant correcting and boundary establishment feels entirely draining. It’s all normal and appropriate to his development, but damn it’s exhausting! Continue reading “5 Tips To Get Out Of A Rut”
Social media has become one of the most prevalent parts of our society. We are addicted to it. We have to develop apps to force us to be off of it and actually enjoy our families from time to time. Social media is a great way to stay connected, but it can also be damaging to your feelings of success in your life. Have you ever noticed that people’s lives on social media seem so perfect? Everyone is getting married, having babies, climbing mountains, biking cross-country, running marathons, or starting businesses. Meanwhile, I’m over here just trying to have a clean house, get my work done, and keep my kid happy and healthy. It can certainly feel like everyone is living their best life except you. Continue reading “How To Avoid the Comparison Trap”
Perfectionism has its good qualities. Your work is always done very well. You have a great attention to detail and you always strive to do your best. Also, the people-pleasing aspect is great for those around us as we will always drop everything to help them or otherwise make them happy. If we aren’t careful though, perfectionism can really get in our ways sometimes. Completing tasks can become a longer process for a perfectionist because they get hung up on the minute details. Perfectionists also experience “analysis paralysis” when trying to make decisions during projects and often find themselves unable to do so for fear of it not being perfect. Perfectionism also hinders our enjoyment of the day to day. We over analyze things and have a difficult time letting things go, even if they do not matter in the long run. Perfectionists also often project their ridiculous expectations of themselves unto others making those around them unable to measure up. As you can imagine, this affects relationships and can leave a perfectionist feeling isolated or misunderstood. Continue reading “3 Ways Becoming A Parent Helped Me Deal With Perfectionism”
In an age of information, personal growth, and an overwhelming amount of people telling you what you should and shouldn’t be doing, it’s easy to get overwhelmed. Everyone has their opinions and most people are not afraid to voice them to you or anyone else. Generally, they are unconcerned or just careless about who their opinions affect. They don’t take into consideration the situations of others when making blanket statements such as “I think everyone should use organic, eco-friendly diapers. It’s just irresponsible to use anything else.” Meanwhile, the widowed mother of two who has to lean on state assistance to get by, starts to feel like crap because though she would love to save the environment, she simply can’t afford those diapers that are twice the cost of regular ones. Continue reading “5 Things To Do When Life Is Overwhelming”