Recently my family has had a lot going on. We have had an extremely busy month with a seemingly overwhelming amount of things to do. My husband has been working long hours and has barely seen our son. My son is teething in the midst of a growth spurt and has been very needy of his momma, which creates a screaming fit any time I put him down. My work has been crazy demanding with a lot going on there too. To top it all off, we have construction happening in our basement having a large waterproofing job done because it keeps flooding when it rains. The dogs keep barking at the construction crew and it has been complete chaos. Needless to say, it was very easy for me to fall into a negative and limiting mindset. In fact, I’ve had to catch myself a few times being a negative Nancy. (Sorry Nancy’s [Nancies?] of the world, your name just goes along with it the best).
Last week was hard. My husband was definitely in a negative mindset and super grumpy from his work week. His long hours kept him away from home and his total face time with our son was under 2 hours. We had plans to go on a fun camping trip while our son and dogs stayed with my mom for the weekend. It was supposed to rain on Friday night and our plan was to camp in a tent. I had stayed pretty positive about the trip and wasn’t about to let a little rain stop me. Husband was being sassy about the trip and I got sucked in. I became very doom and gloom for a bit and I even went so far as to tell my fellow campers that we may have to bail. I was able to catch myself getting sucked in. I reminded myself that sometimes in relationships, even though it’s easier to commiserate, you may need to be the one to pull the other up. So, I decided to fake it til I made it. I put on a smile and kept a positive attitude. I reminded my husband of why the trip would be fun — good company, nature, fellow campers that are also “glampers” allowing us to use their nicer facilities during awake times, and the relaxation. I was able to convince him to go with the caveat that if it got too rough, we could just come home. We were only camping about 10 minutes away so it wasn’t a big deal. In the process of getting out of the house with the dogs and my son, I was working on packing up the dogs and my son while my son screamed at me and the dogs were freaking out because I was packing stuff. I got my son eating a snack in his high chair and was able to get the things in the car. Then, as I got the dogs in the car, a crazy downpour occurred. I carried my son to the car through the downpour and he chose that moment to fight me about getting into his car seat, which never happens. I ride the struggle bus for a while but eventually get him buckled in and I’m soaked to the bone. As I was driving to my mom’s house (12 minutes away), one dog vomited in her bed while the other one crapped in my front seat. AHHHH! I got to mom’s, got everyone inside, unpacked the car, and cleaned my seats. I was able to keep up the positive attitude and remind myself that it’s all going to be OK.
We ended up going on the camping trip and having a great time despite the mosquitoes and rain. My son enjoyed being with his grandma and the dogs mellowed out. As soon as I mellowed, so did they. Everything was great. Had I not had a little mindset shift, everything could have been terrible and not worth it. We very well could have had a much different experience if we weren’t choosing to stay positive despite hurdles. There will always be hurdles. Life will always throw stuff at you unexpectedly. Sometimes it will be good and sometimes bad. It’s how you decide you’re going to handle it that matters. Your mindset can turn any situation one way or the other. Since I have been working on mindful practices, I’ve already seen much of my life transform. Little things in the day-to-day that have stressed me out in the past no longer have a negative impact on me. I’ve been working hard on sending out good vibes into the universe and they’ve come back to me several-fold. I don’t dread the things I used to. I’m able to hit the ground running and wade through the tough moments with ease all because I refuse to let myself get into a negative mindset.
Here are some tips to help you keep a positive mindset in almost any situation:
- Consider the impact of the challenging moment on your life 30 days from the present. Often times, you’ll realize that you probably won’t even remember it happened or realize that it isn’t worth freaking out over for one reason or another.
- Remind yourself that you get to choose how you’d like to feel. Do you want to feel happy or miserable? Most people want to be happy. Depression and similar disorders aside, we have the power to choose how we want to feel each day. For example, instead of having to wake up early to get your coffee before your kids are up, you get to get up early and have coffee before your kids are up. What a blessing!
- Consider the things that are going good. Do you have a roof over your head? Do you have food for you and your family to eat? Do you have a working internet connection? Not everyone has these things. Remind yourself of the simple luxuries that are steadfast in your life and be grateful for them. It’s a great way to help change your perspective.
- Acknowledge what’s going wrong and let it go. Life goes on. It will always go on as long as you are breathing. It’s OK to acknowledge that something isn’t going the way you planned. Let it go. Remember that sh*t happens and you will get through it. When have you ever not gotten through something difficult? You always get through it. You got this! YOU GOT THIS!
- Find yourself a different perspective. Do something that makes you happy to help you turn your mindset around in a positive way. Listen to your favorite inspiring podcast (Shameless Mom Academy anyone?), go for a walk, paint your nails, eat some junk food. Whatever makes you happy in the moment, do that and consider how you can turn this negative experience you’re going through around.
No matter your current situation, a shift in your mindset to a positive direction can change your life. It has been proven time and time again that the more positive energy you put out into the universe, the more comes back to you. The same goes for negative energy. Keep those positive vibes going as much as possible and I promise you won’t be disappointed.
Much love and positive vibes,
Momma Caped Nerd ❤
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